Dealing with Trust Paradox: How Some Relationships Take Our Trust for Granted

I was talking to a friend yesterday and she shared that she recently broke up with a friend - a very close friend just on the basis of the trust in relationship. She was finding it difficult to deal with and we were having this conversation on how to handle such situations in life as it may occur to any of us.

I could feel the pain and anguish in her question that why do some people, upon whom we lavish our trust and hold them in high regard, fail to reciprocate those sentiments? She was feeling USED ! It is a tough question that our heart is seeking an answer for. My introspection after our conversation led to this small blog post which I penned down just to help anyone if it makes sense to them.

We put our faith in them, extending the hand of friendship, love, and support, and end up realising that their actions do not align with the significance we've given to them. They take our emotions for granted, leaving us feeling hurt and betrayed.

May be it is about the complex nature of being human. We are all unique people, developed over time with various experiences and affected by our own insecurities and our very own dreams & desires. Some people that we come across may additionally find it difficult to reciprocate our feelings because of their personal emotional obstacles. They may not have the ability or strength to handle the weight and significance of our trust and affection. Actually it may not be their intention to ignore our emotions, but a possibility that they are lacking the emotional depth to respond in the same manner.

However, It is also noteworthy to say that there are people, who will consciously exploit our trust in them. They manipulate our feelings to serve their own selfish agenda, using our vulnerability as a stepping stone for their personal gain. It is a heart breaking reality to confront, because it betrays our belief in our goodness of humanity. These people would have decided to take benefit from our trust, and will not even think about the effect it will have on our emotional well being. .

When we've such experiences, it's far natural to impeach our very own judgment and gut-feeling. We may wonder if we had been too naive, too trusting, or if we accidentally left out the our caution doors open. Still it is crucial to make sure that we should not blame our very own self for someone’s betrayal. Our openness and willingness to trust someone must be considered as quality, even though they resulted in disappointment.

To navigate in those sensitive situations, we ought to first acknowledge our pain and give ourselves the time to heal. It is essential to recognise that we deserve respect, honesty, and reciprocation in any relationship. We have the power to set barriers and distance ourselves from people who constantly take our feelings with no consideration. By doing so, we create room for healthier connections with individuals who cherish and value our feelings.

Ultimately, even though the pain of being taken for granted may additionally linger a bit longer, it isn't always an indictment of our worth or the authenticity of our emotions. It is a reminder that not everyone will admire and cherish us in the manner that we hope or anticipate. But by no means, we should permit the actions of few such humans tarnish our notion in the beauty of human connections.

For each man or woman who fails to reciprocate, there are others who will cherish us wholeheartedly, presenting the affection and understanding we deserve. In this world filled with imperfect beings, we must learn to guard our hearts without losing the ability to trust. It is very important to notice that it is only by experiencing such good and bad responses, it gives us an opportunity to grow and improve ourselves at judging characters of people as they as they stumble upon us in the drift of life. While the negative feeling disappoints us , it is also an opportunity to learn more about ourselves and how we can find the right qualities in genuine relationships.

So, In my opinion, we should not sweat on those people who take our feelings for granted, but actually focus on the lessons that they teach us by their actions. We must not lose hope that there are people out there who will always value and reciprocate the trust we shower on them. And above all, we should never allow actions of a few such people to challenge our belief in the goodness of others and underestimate our own capacity to love and be loved.