Perspective…Mutliple ways to look at life..

Perspective….

Sounds like a normal word out of dictionary but….i realised that it is one of the most important engine that drives our lives the way they are going..It has a heavy influence on the way we shape or de-shape our lives.. Sounds weird right ? Lets dig in to some thoughts… This thought started a couple of days ago when i was driving down my daughter to her art classes on last saturday morning. On the way there is a small housing colony where there are small houses of lower middle class families. People who stay here are conservative in nature as far as I am aware. I saw one of their teenager daughter standing on the main road, talking to a similar aged boy standing besides a motorbike…A quick thought ran into my mind.. Seems like the girl is too daring do that considering the type of coservative families and the place that she belonged to. and I moved ahead. On my way back.. It struck me that this particular scene could have been described in two different ways looking from someone from that colony’s point of view. a. The Girl is really shameless. b. Its a lot better than the Girl chose to talk to her male accomplice in front of the colony and not by hiding in some sheepish corner trying to avoid to be discovered. .. The heart of the whole situation is not about the Girl or the Guy she is talking to .. or even the conservative colony.. The heart of the thought is that most of the time our reaction to any situation is always influenced by any one perspective and not an overall analysis. Considering another example.. You have asked one of your friend to come and join for a movie a few times but have not been able to set that up. First time you had asked, he wasn’t well.. Second time you asked, his wife wasn’t well.. Third time you asked, he had a social commitment which couldnt be changed.. The last time you asked him…. he said his child was not well… In such a situation, most commonly you would derive that probably he doesnt really want to Join for a movie and he is trying to avoid accompnaying you by lame excuses.. and you probably decide not to ask any more time. Your connectivity grading for that friend is lowered in your own graph or standards by which you measure your friends. In reality, it could be that all the 4 times , he really wanted to come with you but the circumstances prevented him from accepting your invitation. Did you really choose to view the other perspective ? If you did, probably your decision and your friendship would have been at a different level. Isnt it ? We can go on and on with examples as such things happen in our life every day, every minute.. Everytime it happens, mostly we chose to go with our perspective and move forward.. AND this decides the course of our life in general. But my friend..  If we treat every such situation as MCQ (Multi choice question) like those in IIT exams with A – B – C- D options and give our self choice to decide whether to review it in our own perspective or the other person’s perspective or an overall analysis (The TOP VIEW ) if  I may call it.

Both above images are pyramid but when one has a side view of Triangle and other has a side view of Broad triangle, both have a different TOP view.. Similarly.. It appears to me that every situation in life needs to have a TOP VIEW ANALYSIS before being Judgemental or making decisions on Just a single own perspective.. I might be right.. I might be wrong..  Comments and different Perspectives are welcomed !!!!!!!!! Till then.. Adios..