12th Year it is…Time Flies when you get Married…

Today is our Anniversary. We will have been married since 12 years. As I do every year, I am going to give body to my thoughts over past years in order to preserve them life time. Kinjal is indeed my soul mate and everything in my life has prepared me for her forever.

“The most wonderful of all things in life, I believe, is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a growing depth, beauty, and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.”

Kinjal..

I have been trying to put into words time and time again how I feel for you going on our 12th year together as husband and wife. Every year that we are together has honestly been better and different than the last and it is almost impossible for me to even think how I could even love you more but I do each day. Every second of every day of every year, you have graced my life.

We have had our moments in the dark but so many more in the light. We have worked on our life together for the better and look at us now! Really, how could I love you more? Ask me tomorrow and I will tell you.

You are the one that I have always counted on and needed through the joy and sorrow, laughter and some tears you have kept me grounded, you are indeed my rock. You have been there for me through the days, months and years and your devotion has never faltered no matter whatever I have said or done in my temperament (bad mood swings as I would say clearly) , you have been there. I have grown because of you and I know that I will continue my path in life with you by my side. I used to wonder what I did to deserve you but then one day I realized that it is not a matter of deserving at all. We were meant to be like this.

No, you’re not perfect. You lose your mind when you see me eating calories, you occasionally go unwound in ways I don’t understand, and you don’t like mushrooms which I love to eat. These things notwithstanding, I can’t imagine myself traveling this admittedly odd path with anyone else. Even in your imperfections, I find beauty. Your passion, your patience, and your endurance are hard to fully comprehend. You’ve taken those traits and used them to become the mother that every child wants.

When we had our daughter, I thought it could drive us to opposite sides of the bed. I thought it might suck the air from our passion for our lives and make us dull and it did for a while but, parenthood has only made me love you more–so much more that I sometimes feel giddy.

Twelve  years ago, I couldn’t comprehend twelve years. I couldn’t imagine being past my mid-30s, a father of a daughter, and in a business  that  finds me travelling twice a month to Tirupur – Thousands of kilometers away from you.  

We entwined our lives twelve years ago in the name of marriage. Yes we entered in with trepidation and excitement just as any couple would have. We have seen the ups and downs. We have fought and made up. We gave in and compromised most of the times!

But these twelve years have been the best decade of my life! The strength I got standing beside you, gave me the courage to accomplish my dreams. The freedom I had to be who I am, made me fall in love with you more. The way you trusted me, made me want to be more trust worthy.

How much I have grown and matured? When I look back at those years I am proud to be the person who I am today and that is because of you my dear. Without your love and support I would have never been able to accomplish so much at work and at home.

I love you Kinjal, with all my heart and soul. I make a vow to you again on our anniversary that I would never take you for granted (and that I do every year …kidding ) I know marriage is for the long haul and with all the negativity about marriage that I see happening around me, I cherish what we have. I want to prove to every pessimist out there that having that one person in the world to love you and to come back too is worth all the work and sacrifices. Yes after twelve years I would say we don’t have the initial excitement which we had in our first year, but in turn we have a wonderful bond and understanding that comes only after staying with someone for a long time. We have created a small world around us which is happy, secure and beautiful and having out daughter as a proof of our love. What more can we ask?

I am able to go out in the world and win, because I know I have you behind my back and likewise I am standing besides you holding your hands. Our is a partnership of two adults and there is no place for dominance or belittling someone because if I hurt you I know I am hurting myself. For all the times that we have fought and all the times we went to bed angry I look back and see that those were the moments that brought us closer together with deeper understanding.  I want to grow old together and see Tanjal grow and become adult and believe in the system of marriage seeing us.

Yes I love our daughter Tanjal,  but you are my number one (even if it doesn’t feel that way) but believe me, your smile lightens up my world.  I can keep going on and on giving body to my thoughts but then one has to end somewhere sometime to start some other time again…

Keep loving me and taking care of me and my diet as you always do.. and I Promise, I will still sneak my ways to get my share of Cheese and Butter….